Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, It does not boast, It is not proud. It is not rude, It is not self seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease. Where there are tongues, they will be stilled. Where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
I have noticed recently how quite a few status updates on Facebook are saying bad things about one's spouse. I don't get it. This is the person you are supposed to love. What is the reasoning for saying bad things about them on a public forum? Is it for sympathy? For attention? I cringe when I read these kinds of posts. I feel sympathy for the person it is about, not the person who wrote it. What would posses a person to humiliate the love of their life like that?
When we marry we take a vow to love, honor and respect. Spouse bashing is in violation of every one of those vows. Being married means your spouse is trusting you to protect them. However, with doing this you are breaking their trust and instead of protecting them you are hurting them.
Marriage needs to be nurtured and protected. It needs to be kept private. If you are having marriage problems seek God, first through prayer and through the Bible. His answer will never be to post your problems on a public forum or even to your friends. His answer may be to seek professional help in the form of a counselor or pastor.
This is a great quote from an article I read by Josh Wiley. "When you seek guidance in your marriage from God, His holy word will make your marriage far better than attempting to guide your marriage!" We need to remember that. Remember also that in 1 Corinthians 13:7 It (love) always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Stop the spouse bashing. Protect your marriage.